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Book Review: “French Women Don’t Sleep Alone” by Jamie Cat Callan via [zabeth’scorner]

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In her book French Women Don’t Sleep Alone Jamie Cat Callan outlines the romantic secrets of French women that have intrigued and captivated men (and some women) for decades. Callan unlocks the secrets that have made French women so alluring.I did find the advice offered in this book to be good; however, it’s the same advice you’d find in The Rules. Both books concur that women should not chase men, that they should play hard to get and, not make themselves too easily available. That’s nothing new or revolutionary. Also when reading this book there are some obvious caveats that you should take into consideration. First, French men are not American men and French culture is not American culture so, not everything will “translate”
so to speak. Second, the French live in a much smaller much more intimate country; therefore, their “rules of the game” will be different from our own.

I also don’t like the notion of European cultural superiority and the idea that Europe does things better than America, or that Americans need to learn something from Europeans. As a proud “can do” American I do get a bit defensive about that. Nonetheless there are many things in this book that American women can learn from French women:

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  1. Instead of going online or to a club/bar try throwing a dinner party.

    French women don’t meet men online or in bars. Instead they meet men through their existing social circle or “coterie.” Try throwing a dinner party at your home and have each guest bring one or two guests. This broadens your social circle and will give you a chance to get intimately acquainted with the people in your inner circle. Your friends and acquaintances will get to see you in a different light too- dinner parties give you a chance to show off your intellect and your cooking and conversation skills. There’s also an air of competition. When you’re online men already know you are available; when you meet at a dinner party they won’t and thus can’t take you for granted. They’ll also take note of other potential suitors.

  2. Go for a walk.

    Instead of going to a restaurant on a first date and confining yourself to that one person for 2 hours, go on a walk or a bicycle ride. This eliminates the quid-pro-quo where because the man is paying for something he feels entitled and you (may) feel obligated. Also when you’re out and about walking through town looking and smelling good other men will notice you…and don’t think your date won’t notice that. For the times when you don’t have a date, fill in the time by doing something else out and about in the world where you can be visible to the opposite sex.

  3. Dare to be feminine.

    There’s nothing wrong with being a woman and embracing your femininity. American women have had this beaten out of them for the past 40 years. French women on the other hand love being women and they don’t turn their sensuality on and off- it’s just always on. Second, French women don’t hide their intelligence. In fact they like to look brainy and appear intellectual. Intelligence isn’t a masculine trait and, real men know that smart is sexy.

  4. Take care of your body.

    French women put themselves first. Putting yourself first means taking care of your body both physically and emotionally. This is something we as BW especially, often neglect to do. Always know you’re beautiful and be happy with who you are. Exercise. Eat quality, nutritious food. Take good care of your skin. In other words, don’t neglect yourself.

  5. The myth of the French Mistress.

    Contrary to popular belief, adultery is not as tolerated in France as some people (men) would like to believe. Nor are French women as tolerant of a husband’s indiscretions as we are sometimes led to believe. Let’s also not ignore the fact that women are just as capable of being unfaithful. Affairs do happen in France but it’s really not much different than in the U.S.

Overall I’d give this book 2 and ½ stars out of 5. Callan often repeats herself- really just re-wording points she’s already made- throughout the book. However, I found it to be a cute and fast paced read that offered interesting advice and insight into another culture.



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Read-Along Guide to Elle’s September 2010 Issue: Part 2

This last weekend of summer has been filled with far too much late night TV (Say Yes to the Dress and True Life: I’m a Compulsive Shopper were my picks, the made-for-TV movie Love & Basketball, Remember the Titans, and Real World: New Orleans were Devon’s picks) and far too little blogging. I apologize! Hopefully, regular blogging will continue once school starts up again. (On Wednesday. Wednesday. That is so unbelievably soon.) Until more frequent blogging resumes, I have another massive blog post for you: I’ve diligently recorded my thoughts, comments and potentially over-the-top praise and compiled them into a laughably long list to share with you. I present you with the Read-Along Guide to Elle‘s September 2010 Issue: Part 2, to be read in conjunction with page 229 – page 305. So grab your copy of Elle and read along with me; if you don’t have your own issue, hopefully my notes will fill you in on the best of what the magazine has to offer! For the first installment in this series, read Part 1 here. Page 229: Oh, Essie. It’s really quite unfair for you to place ads like this every magazine, especially when you know that I am deeply in love with your collection. I want it! Page 230: A quote from Opening Ceremony founder Humberto Leon on the success of his store:

So, we’re always trying to figure out, how do you make that suburban kid really freak out?

This is why I need to shop at Opening Ceremony. Leon hit the nail on the head. Suburban kids like myself truly would freak out in his store. So many amazing things, so little time… Page 234: Let me explain why I want to have brunch with Julie de Libran, women’s design director of Louis Vuitton

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  • I love how she translates her inspiration (the concept of wanderlust) into such beautiful clothing. It’s not necessarily the first thing I think of when I see LV’s clothing, but once she explains it, I totally understand. It just makes sense.
  • Her four-year-old son is named Balthazar. He wears a pirate eye patch.
  • The woman she designs for is “always dressed and has somewhere to go.” (Such is my fashion philosophy. Always get dressed up!)

Page 240: “The Facebook group ‘Leggings are NOT Pants‘ boasts 385,658 likes.” Make the number 385,659! Page 240: Angela Lindvall is attempting to convince me of “the return of the pant.” I’m not talking about jeans, but actual pants. I’m not buying it; I don’t even know where or how to wear pants. No matter what the occasion, I will always, always choose skirts and dresses over pants. Page 251: Buongiorno, Donatella! I’d like one of those gorgeous Versace dresses featured on page 251 of Elle, thank you very much! Page 252: Elle calls the look Neo-Prep. I just call it fabulous. I like the green watch by May 28th and the purple croc loafer by Balenciaga by Nicolas Ghesquière. Page 254: This spread features glitzy, futuristic, ’80′s-inspired pieces, but I’m not feeling it at all. Can the fashion world please stop resurrecting the 1980′s? Enough is enough! Page 258 – Page 260: The “Baroque Beauty” and “Sacred Heart” spreads are full of pieces from McQueen’s final collection. I thought his final collection was beautiful – I even wrote a review of it for my journalism class, which I should get around to posting here sometime soon – and I’m happy to see it featured so prominently. (And I want those shoes!) Page 264: I’m not quite sure how I feel about this major 1970′s revival. The runway interpretations are beautiful, especially at Chloé, but I feel like this trend could go horribly wrong in real life. What do you think? Page 267: I am such a sucker for advertising. Beyond all reason, I now want a $4000 Judith Leiber bejeweled owl clutch. Page 270: These shoes are beyond cool. I have no clue where you would ever wear such creations, but they are infinitely fun. (Can’t wait to see the mangled Forever 21 knock-offs.) Page 276: Yay, another lace-up bootie spread! Since I featured them on my blog earlier this month, I’ve seen them everywhere. I love when I catch trends early on. Page 277: Can Mulberry be any more fabulous? (No.) This ad is so whimsical and fun! Page 285: Ooh, I like the jeweled Atlas Collection bracelets by M.C.L. by Matthew Campbell Laurenza. Imagine wearing a stack of these bangles with black denim, a tuxedo jacket, and a silk blouse. (Swoon!) Page 286: Jewelery designer Samantha Wills – must investigate! Page 287: Talbot’s has a leopard print coat this season. I borrowed a Talbot’s zebra print coat from my mom’s closet last year and it was such a conversation piece. I loved it! Page 292: I didn’t know Tiffany’s had a Leather Goods line, but I’m seriously dying over this $4,500 black glazed crocodile tote. I wish I could buy one for my Grandma Rose; after she passed away, I found similar style tote in the attic that was once hers. I used it daily and was so sad when the straps broke. The Tiffany’s tote reminds me of her! Page 293: Laura Mercier’s “What Is Flawless?” campaign is very cool! Read more about it here. Page 294: Stephanie Winston Wolkoff, director of fashion at Lincoln Center, is 6’1” and wears sky-high heels. What a great role model! Confident women like her inspire me to wear heels even when I worry about towering over everyone else in the room. Page 299: I love that Elle mentioned that Louis Boston moved to a new location. (At Fan Pier on the Boston Harbor.) On a page that’s dominated by fashion news from New York and L.A., it’s very cool to see that Boston made the cut! Page 305: Pierre Hardy shoes quickly jumped to the top of my wishlist when I had the privilege of holding these beauties in my own two hands. Elle just reminded me that Pierre Hardy is doing a collaboration with The Gap – and just look at those shoes! Perhaps a little PH will make it into my closet after all… Page 305: Editor Joann Pailey says she’s looking forward to mixing it up this season: varsity jackets with acid wash jeans, cargos with leopard print. I hope to work on incorporating more of this philosophy into my wardrobe! My style can sometimes be so unabashedly girly; hopefully, the concept of mixing styles will help me get outside my box a little bit. All images are produced by Elle and scanned by me. Feel free to use my scans, but please, remember to link back to where you found them! If you’ve read this far, thank you! Stay tuned for parts 3 – 5, coming to a computer near you soon. xoxo Hannah 

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